Back to Tribal times

Once we take a look at how society has evolved and progress we realized that the tribal form was the first to emerge and mature, beginning thousands of years ago. This way of living and growing as a cultural group was based on kindness and a distinct sense of identity, of belonging. Families weren’t different from the system. Raising the children and providing for the family members to survive were done as a collective task. The “whole” working for each individual, each individual working for the “whole”.

Then came the institutional, market, and now networking forms of organization and working closely as a “whole” was relegated to a second level. Families raising their kids alone, far away from grandparents to guide them, miles away from friends to share the load of child upbringing. Until now. Easy access to Internet, blogging, and social media have created a phenomenon that could bring us back to tribal times with modern modifications.

Families raising their kids alone, far away from grandparents to guide them, miles away from friends to share the load of child upbringing. Until now.

Global awareness, international job openings, economic crisis and civil war are some of the reasons why people have decided to embrace nomad life again, living abroad far way from the comfort zone that provides a safety net.  There are millions of immigrants moving from one country to the other yearly, facing cultural changes and language disadvantages. All of the suden we found parents enduring the difficult task of “parenting” with no guidance at all in foreign surroundings. Until now.

In 1994 the first blog was created (Links.net) and since then, a whole new era of writing and communicating arised to connect people around the world in no time with minimal difficulties. Many say that social media and the web drive us away from family members and friends, but I disagree. In 2014 I started following some multicultural and traveling Instagram accounts just for the sake of looking at beautiful pictures of places I personally wanted to visit, and to discover more about other cultures. Until then, my life as an immigrant has made me raise my three little ones miles away from my mother, and in some way, my days as a mother were spent in solitude. Yes, I did have good friends from whom I learnt a lot about the culture of the host country, but sometimes I was in need of that someone sharing similar experiences, someone who would know how it is to move abroad, learn a new language, and recreate a whole new career.

…but sometime I was in need of that someone sharing similar experiences, someone who would know how it is to move abroad, learn a new language, and recreate a whole new career.

And it happened. I created new connections with moms around the globe just by commenting on their posts and asking questions about child care, travel planning, and more. Yes, it may sound superficial, but let me asure you that many of these social media connections have become friends, people that share my values, experiences, love for bilingualism and multicultural life. No, they’ve not replaced my “face-to-face” friends and acquaintances, that would be irresponsible of me. We need local friends in order to create a bond with the host community and reinforce that feeling of belonging. But these IG or FB friends, complement my net of working, raising kids, and enjoying my life as an expat/immigrant woman, wife, and mommy.

As a result, I feel more connected to my reality, empowered by the stories of many ladies walking the same path, and most important, I don’t find myself alone. For good or not so good, there is always someone dealing with the same situation. I feel part of a tribe! We are a tribe! Again, after all of these years, we are developing a new form of tribal organization. Moms from all corners of the world are connecting, together, sharing knowledge and despair, making life abroad easier and prettier.

Moms from all corners of the world are connecting, together, sharing knowledge and despair, making life abroad easier and prettier.

Today I was inspired by you, mommy, daddy, blogger. I thank you, my IG friend who sees my kids grow in every picture I post. You, mom, who participate in my group chats, and allow me to be part of your reality by sharing with me your problems as a global family and the sweetness of your success. Let’s continue being a whole, a tribe, working together, supporting each other with every written text, and every taken photograph. Remember that these connections go way beyond the financial benefits that may bring to you and your family. We are raising our children together, like in neolithical times, as a tribe, as a one big united family, as a “whole”.

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  1. Hola Flor! Me encanta saber que no estamos solas, que somos muchas mamás que estamos criando hijos multiculturales, tengo muchisimas dudas y temores, gracias por compartir tu experiencia.
    Ingrid Segura.

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